To that fortunate woman

Hello Fortunate,

I always thank God for your life. Today too, I pray you find good health and happiness. Though I’m yet to see you, I’m convinced that you will hear me whenever I talk to you, in my mind. Once again lend me your ears.

Many are those useful advices on my mind for you but today I want you to know this—only this: Whenever you are presented with the opportunity to choose between beauty and character—I pray you choose character. Choose character—and don’t even think twice! I don’t think words will be enough for me to enumerate the advantages this decision of yours will bring to our future matrimonial home. But I know it will be enormous. 

To begin with, as the saying goes, ‘’beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’’, and if we’re to go by this maxim, then I will be the ‘beholder’ here, and how I wish you could know and understand the stance I’ve taken when it comes to that controversial concept—beauty. As the only certified beholder of your beauty, you need not to do much (as a beholdee) to please me—actually; your beauty is the second thing I will consider though. But don’t forget I will love you not because of your beauty. I don’t even know (which is usual with most people) how to define beauty. 

As I said earlier, the concept of the beauty of a woman is vague and controversial as well. Most women themselves do not even know what constitutes their own beauty—why should I even try! Notwithstanding, my dear Fortunate, you need to know this: beauty of a woman, to me, can be seen from two angles—‘physical assets’ and ‘character’’. Though physical assets such as good skin; voluptuous and curvy body; great legs; ‘angelic face’; fat ass; big and firm boobs and other mind-blowing physical appearances count in defining a woman’s beauty, I will definitely define your beauty in terms of your character instead. Not your physical assets. 

Fortunate, you may be wondering why I’m saying this but this shouldn’t surprise you at all. Why should I base my love for you on your mere physical appearance when I know full well that they will all wither with time? Just before I took my pen and paper to write you this letter, I was staring incredibly at a great, old portrait of my grandmother who will turn 85 next week. She was then in her heydays—I believe she was 24 or less. What a beauty she was! Obviously, ‘’physical beauty’’’. But can we say the same thing now; considering her sagging skin, wrinkles here and there, dropping jaw-bone and the like? Your guess is as good as mine! Such physical beauty cannot, at most, stand the test of time. And I should think along the line I may find someone who possesses more of these physical features. What should I do then? If the only thing you have is your physical beauty?

Oh as for the aspect of woman’s character, you have to acquire as many as you can. A lot of them. A woman is beautiful when she smiles. I can’t help when I see a woman wearing that bold and authentic smile on that “natural face’’—the smile with the ability to make a sunny day. If there is a make-up kit for it, Fortunate, don’t hesitate to buy it. A woman is beautiful when she is courteous (polite and respectful). You must also befriend humility as well. You have to work on ability to be engaging; you would want to know how to say a lot by saying a little at time. You must be nonjudgmental, always happy, optimistic, genuine (as for the genuineness, almost always, put it on!), warm, sensual, witty and bright. A beautiful woman is the one who is passionate, purposeful, fit, confident and competent. If there are values to be learned, Fortunate, leaned these. You must also be kind and compassionate and caring. What will prevent me and the children from loving you if you possess at least 90 per cent of these characters? Do not forget to remember this: I will be attracted to you when you make me feel good and when you show genuine interest in me.

Is my prayer that I find you with both aspect of beauty—physical assets with character. I should thank my stars for such a treasure. But if, in the likely event, you are to opt for one aspect of beauty, my dear, develop good characters. It is then that your beauty will lie in the eyes of the beholder (me) and beholdee (you). Dear fortunate, you may think I am demanding a lot from you. But don’t worry. I will support you in my prayers, knowing full well that with God all things are possible. You can do it. I hope to meet you one day.

                                                                                                                                               Yours Love.